My job does not define me
Many of those around me define themselves by their professional attributes. There is no how are you, how is everything going, how are you feeling. Everything is about how to advance their own careers, often diving deeper into a pit of ego and the desire to rise above the next. It is amazing how we have lost tune of our sense of humanity, our sense of living, our sense of purpose. A coworker is so obsessed with his career, and to his defense, he has so much potential to be someone amazing in our field, but he has lost his ability to talk about anything else but this, and even worse, the ability to listen to others. Literally - don't dare try talking about your own matters, because he no longer (perhaps never had) has the ability to listen to anything about anything other than his career. Our attendings indulge in "so where are you working? have you found a job? whats the plan? how much maternity leave? are you making this time up?". It is so toxic. Everything is about jo